Typical Indian turn offs

I spent all afternoon to figure how to phrase the title of this post correctly!(without offending many)
 this is the best I could reach! But fact is a fact, the urban Indian population is now growing at speed of light with access to the new food menus, gadgets, places, clothing, life styles and much more.
Hence obviously this should make us all more aware and more metro, but there are some hard to give up traits we have inherited generation after generation and no matter where we reach we would still have them. and these are what make us appear less exposed, aware and less educated!

Why why why?? I don’t know but here are some common turn offs that are appalling and we must discourage:

  • Talking loudly in public places : Ok so this really puts me off  badly. Indians take pride in talking loudly in public places, sometimes it looks like an innocent act only to become the center of attraction or seek everybody’s attention. be it, restaurants, flights, trains, airports, work places or elite public occasions. and I see people not objecting to it no matter how much it bothers  them. may be its time we politely let our colleagues, fellow travelers or diners know that we are not ok with it
  • Not Been there, not done that yet saying: Everyone here has an opinion on everything. whether they have experience of it or not; yet they have expert reviews, opinions, advices to give you. Of course all of this becomes valid information if they have real experiences to validate these comments but mostly they don’t yet their comments have the power to declare end results of any situations you may put forth.
  • The predictors: Some people take immense pride to be able to foresee future and predict the future of people, actors, neighbor’s, their kids, share market movie successes and eventually the future of you & me. if their accuracy was so good, why don’t they predict some shit for themselves! People have to stop making statement on anything & everything. 
  • Over judgmental/critical : I think we are the most critical & judgmental race, we have not opinions but judgments’ on everything. We judge people on every aspect of their personality even though we may not have them ourselves. Yet they trip on being able to rip apart anyone’s effort, project or creation. Mostly is done under the blanket of humor. when there is a new comer in Hollywood I haven’t seen posts ripping that actor apart, showcasing how he may fail or suck at his job. But when there is a new comer in Bollywood every Indian becomes larger than a regular film critic and rips apart that actor, verbally, on the social media and wherever possible. Ok fine I understand you can be skeptical but if you cant do that persons job better than him, there is absolutely no way you should be ridiculing him/her.  We should discourage this, or else it is not the right message we are sending to the world or the next generation.
  • The sleaze balls : if you are out of India and you see or come across a man eve teasing or making sleazy remarks at a woman 9/10 chances are he is an Indian. We as Indian men & women have encouraged these kinda sleaze balls. we breed them, and later when things go out of hand in our so called educated society we protest! Coommmee oooonnnn!!! Don’t you think all you men reading this should give a shut up call the next time you see a random man do this shit to anybody!
  • Macho man aka the MCP:  sadly, yes this is what 80% of Indian men and women think. If the man is an MCP he is macho, if he controls and commands women – he is macho. Now women also think that, its a shame!! This is such a shitty image to portray to the world out there.
  • Everything is the Government’s fault: I understand the government creates the procedures & mechanisms for the nation to function properly, but there is a critical role the public plays in it. if the last 10 years have been crappy, have you ever reflected upon “the brain drain” we have faced, The “why should I get my hands dirty” attitude, the lets “mind our own business & why care for another” behavior, which is the biggest reason for lack of social reforms. The rapists were not executed immediately we were angry, but how many of you were angry on the million cars & bikes passing by the dead soul lying on the road, there the public like you & me are at fault. Stop the blame game! if you are blaming you are guilty conscious. its your country you call the shots. so get out of the cocoon, speak up and call the shots! And charity begins from home!

After reading this take a moment and think of the kind of image we are creating for the next generation of India and the current people of the world. No matter hominy IT parks we have and how much employment we may create; The real change will come when we change our thinking and the thinking of all the people close to us – our families, our friends, our colleagues. Treat this as your social contribution to the growing India.

      Why are Men & women not equal in India?

      May be I am feminist, may be not, I don’t care. 
      If voicing my opinion will drive the point home & help create a better tomorrow, I am ready to do it every single day of my life!
      Almost all of us are fed up & frustrated listening about crimes against women committed every min in India. But what we don’t see often are the roots of all this, lies in where such mentality arises from.
      This man-woman inequality issue is way deep rooted and may take centuries to get out of our society. It is rooted in almost every boy from the time he is a 3 year old, and it is a fault of women themselves who allow them to think that they are superior to all women no matter what age or status they are at. 

       IT IS OUR FAULT!
      It is the fault of all mothers, sisters, wives, daughters, girl friends, who have encouraged this mindset. Just the reactions have different levels, some men will just display that dominating behavior for some issues like ‘don’t wear this’ or ‘don’t go there’ & some for almost everything to take complete control and if this control boundary is violated the punishment is severe varying from a mere yell in public to burning one alive!
      Unless all the women in this country unite to correct the base of this problem we will never overcome it!

      All the women need to come together & pledge to educate and set boundaries to men and women around them about what does equality actually mean!
      It will only make a difference when all of us come together to change this society, this country we live in!  

      Here is what women can do for other women to help bring in this positive change:

      • Encourage the WOMEN around you to have a voice. Whether at home or work, encourage them to share their opinions & ideas. let them have a voice.
      • Stop pulling each other down, that bitch at work might be battling a 100 issues to get to work and kick ass at it, so its good for you if you know one such woman, don’t indulge in back biting or discouraging her, instead create a support system where in she doesn’t have to be a bitch to survive.
      • Positive feminism is the key: Educate one another, bring in positive feminism and not an angry, aggressive constantly argumentative one. A lot can be done without fighting always and by just conveying a point politely, addressing an issue gracefully. Teach young girls to be assertive and aware. Feminism doesn’t have to only be about brash words, screaming slogans and road rallies.
      • Make men a part of this: Not all men are the same, there are many who agree with this need of equality. Instead of cornering them with accusations of how men treat women, Rope them in. They can help change other men as well. So stop shutting them down saying “You don’t know a thing a about feminism”. Instead make them aware, educate them and encourage them to help spread this forward. Be it your father, brother , son or a friend. Talk to them.
      • All the ladies need to step up and participate in this if you want any change! It can’t be done by someone else it is your job too. Get up and participate, in your style.

      Hope this inspires you to bring in some positive changes towards equality in India.