Learnings from a traffic jam


Pune is not a huge metro city, we have a good mix of big & small roads, tiny lanes & one-ways, with a dash of faulty signals & graciously distributed pot holes too. Almost every day there is a jam on some or the other road.
I tried to find a reason, relating this situation to a deeper life meaning, trying to understand why does a traffic jam happen?? It is still the same road, same people, just because there is a faulty traffic light or absence of a traffic policeman, Why does it all have to go out of control???
Despite being educated, despite being aware of the traffic rules and despite the basic common sense training, is it soooooo difficult for us to think logically & take steps to ease a jam??
Last evening, I spent an hour in a jam that could have been solved in just 15 mins tops and I observed the behaviour of people on the road.
When I got stuck in the jam, the left side of the road stopped moving, slowly the entire right side of the road was taken over by the left side commuters on bikes(majorly) & cars. They just wanted to go first. Now, This caused an extended jam because no traffic could move on the either side of the road. All everyone had to do was stick to their side of the road and let the situation ease out, instead everyone decide to block all outlets.
 Now I thought to myself, are we all this stupid??? May be yes!
The key things I learnt here:

  • Rules make life easier: At least in this case! Jumping a red light, driving on the wrong  and other similar acts would have been allowed if it helped a smooth traffic. So obviously there is a reason they are not! These rules are put in place for a reason, let us learn to trust this process and stay out of bending or breaking them.  It is not cool to break every rule in life, specially the one that can causes others inconvenience or even causes you a fatal injury. Think before you want to show your bravado or fearlessness on the road. It does not translate into you being the same in real life.
  • Me first attitude: Traditionally the biggest cause of any traffic jam is the” me first” attitude. Someone in the crowd wants to win a race or just does not want to get stuck or something like that, He/she takes the lead to cause a jam. Ironically he/she does not realise that they are causing a huge chaos & large waste of time with that one stupid move. Similarly in life I think it’s ok to let someone go first, may be he needs to, trust people, don’t try to get out of everything without caring about what price the other person, the one right behind you will have to pay for this move. This highly selfish behaviour causes ambulances & genuine commuters to be stuck for hours with no fault of their own. Whether you are a slow or a fast driver, it won’t cost you much to just not cause everyone else trouble. Be patient, think like a grown up.

  •   No Compassion: Everyone wants to get their destination, agreed, but can we be a bit more compassionate towards other humans on the road. Rage is bad & so is ignorance. I see some people just ignoring people who want to take a pass even on an empty road. May be if you let others go first, it will solve the problem faster. This applies to all of us, the one who is letting you go first & the one who is going first. Be compassionate, maybe he needs to go first or faster. Be responsible. Show some regard, yes you do not know every person on the road, but it won’t harm to develop a mutually respecting society around us.

  •  There are some good people: Every jam brings forward some heroes. The ones who care about everyone, who step out of their car & tell people what to do. They take the lead & solve the problem. Some help while sitting in their cars too. It is amazing to see how only a few people care enough to get up & help a stuck school bus or an ambulance. These people don’t get any sort of recognition or credit, they are forgotten soon after you get out of the jam, but they still do it! Respect them, be like them, get inspired by them, all because we need more like them.

  • Start with disciplining yourself:  Like someone once rightly said “To Change others, start with yourself.”  After you complain about others & their reckless driving, spend a moment to introspect, are you a responsible driver/rider? Do you make efforts to not further cause a jam?  Do you unnecessarily jump signals or break random traffic rules because it’s easy & fun?  Do you contribute effectively on the road in a situation? If you don’t, it is never too late to change that. We need to bring about that positive change, for a better Pune, for a better India  & a better tomorrow. We need to bring that change for our younger generations to come. They will learn & adapt to a world we create for them, if that means recklessness & irresponsible attitudes on the road or in life, they will learn just that! To teach them compassion we must practice that too.

🚦🚦Hope this inspires you to be a responsible driver/rider!🚦🚦
Stay blessed 💟

Hey you mortal (poem)


Hey you mortal!
How foolish are you to pretend that you will last forever,
how foolish are you to believe that all you accumulate in this material world defines you?
You think it will stay with you forever?
In this time & age you are being sucked into a belief,
that all the material achievements & possessions is our real earnings.
There is a reason behind us feeling this way.
We are escaping the feeling world.
Why? Because it’s more work.
It’s more effort & less pretence.
It’s more from the inside & less from the outside.

Hey you mortal!
Who we are as a person defines us nothing more nothing less.
You have heard this before,right? Yet find it difficult to believe.
Our ability to be compassionate, to love, to be kind, to help each other is what we will be remembered for.

Hey you mortal!
Once you leave this earth you will only need a white cloth to wrap your soulless body in.
Some will cry, some will weep.
Some will for grieve for a few days and some will just wipe you out of their memory in a jiffy.
All these social media friends & fans, these colleagues, and even family, will sooner or later forget you.
Sad but true.
At last, The only thing that will force people to think of you or remember you, is a memory of how you behaved with them, how you made them feel. Your love, compassion, care and regard will stay.
That loving hug, a helpful gesture, even that excited goodbye wave.

Hey you mortal!
Your soul craves for something more meaningful, yet you stuff it with surface gold & glitter.
Can you provide your soul with the right fodder?
Something satisfying, peaceful, that makes your heart grow fonder.
Your habits, your things & your temporary flings,
Don’t have that power.
What has the real power is What you can do for others, your actions, your karma and your kind feelings.


Hey you mortal!
Try it, it’s not so difficult.
Step aside from this chaos, and focus on the little things you can do for people.
Spend some time doing good for others, and be more humble.
May be it will come back or may be it won’t.
But the fruit this bears will be the sweetest ever.
Go nurture your inner being,
become kinder, Go less on criticism & complaining.
Give that credit, clear your karmic dues,
This for sure will make you feel higher.
Make an effort to make someone’s day brighter.

Hey you mortal,
there is so much you can do!
Go nurture your soul.