Typical Indian turn offs

I spent all afternoon to figure how to phrase the title of this post correctly!(without offending many)
 this is the best I could reach! But fact is a fact, the urban Indian population is now growing at speed of light with access to the new food menus, gadgets, places, clothing, life styles and much more.
Hence obviously this should make us all more aware and more metro, but there are some hard to give up traits we have inherited generation after generation and no matter where we reach we would still have them. and these are what make us appear less exposed, aware and less educated!

Why why why?? I don’t know but here are some common turn offs that are appalling and we must discourage:

  • Talking loudly in public places : Ok so this really puts me off  badly. Indians take pride in talking loudly in public places, sometimes it looks like an innocent act only to become the center of attraction or seek everybody’s attention. be it, restaurants, flights, trains, airports, work places or elite public occasions. and I see people not objecting to it no matter how much it bothers  them. may be its time we politely let our colleagues, fellow travelers or diners know that we are not ok with it
  • Not Been there, not done that yet saying: Everyone here has an opinion on everything. whether they have experience of it or not; yet they have expert reviews, opinions, advices to give you. Of course all of this becomes valid information if they have real experiences to validate these comments but mostly they don’t yet their comments have the power to declare end results of any situations you may put forth.
  • The predictors: Some people take immense pride to be able to foresee future and predict the future of people, actors, neighbor’s, their kids, share market movie successes and eventually the future of you & me. if their accuracy was so good, why don’t they predict some shit for themselves! People have to stop making statement on anything & everything. 
  • Over judgmental/critical : I think we are the most critical & judgmental race, we have not opinions but judgments’ on everything. We judge people on every aspect of their personality even though we may not have them ourselves. Yet they trip on being able to rip apart anyone’s effort, project or creation. Mostly is done under the blanket of humor. when there is a new comer in Hollywood I haven’t seen posts ripping that actor apart, showcasing how he may fail or suck at his job. But when there is a new comer in Bollywood every Indian becomes larger than a regular film critic and rips apart that actor, verbally, on the social media and wherever possible. Ok fine I understand you can be skeptical but if you cant do that persons job better than him, there is absolutely no way you should be ridiculing him/her.  We should discourage this, or else it is not the right message we are sending to the world or the next generation.
  • The sleaze balls : if you are out of India and you see or come across a man eve teasing or making sleazy remarks at a woman 9/10 chances are he is an Indian. We as Indian men & women have encouraged these kinda sleaze balls. we breed them, and later when things go out of hand in our so called educated society we protest! Coommmee oooonnnn!!! Don’t you think all you men reading this should give a shut up call the next time you see a random man do this shit to anybody!
  • Macho man aka the MCP:  sadly, yes this is what 80% of Indian men and women think. If the man is an MCP he is macho, if he controls and commands women – he is macho. Now women also think that, its a shame!! This is such a shitty image to portray to the world out there.
  • Everything is the Government’s fault: I understand the government creates the procedures & mechanisms for the nation to function properly, but there is a critical role the public plays in it. if the last 10 years have been crappy, have you ever reflected upon “the brain drain” we have faced, The “why should I get my hands dirty” attitude, the lets “mind our own business & why care for another” behavior, which is the biggest reason for lack of social reforms. The rapists were not executed immediately we were angry, but how many of you were angry on the million cars & bikes passing by the dead soul lying on the road, there the public like you & me are at fault. Stop the blame game! if you are blaming you are guilty conscious. its your country you call the shots. so get out of the cocoon, speak up and call the shots! And charity begins from home!

After reading this take a moment and think of the kind of image we are creating for the next generation of India and the current people of the world. No matter hominy IT parks we have and how much employment we may create; The real change will come when we change our thinking and the thinking of all the people close to us – our families, our friends, our colleagues. Treat this as your social contribution to the growing India.

      Are we human or are we @&₹#%!

      The last word shall be as per your imagination, intellect & situation :p
      What ever you may want to address the so called society that you live in. I am in a state of shock followed by disappointment almost every other day, and its triggered only when I start mingling and observing the society of people around me. The real middle class indian mind set. Its bloody scary. Its that kinda human crowd that has to be shaken up and reminded ‘hey, human, be human’. They have not kind of but completely drifted from the facts of their existence. They have stopped being human ages ago, they have absolutely no clue about love, compassion and co-existence. The main resons why humans were different from animals was their intellect, which these guys seem to have sold off I guess! This intellect which would have helped everybody co-exist and live with better understanding of life and their actions, which is of no use to them anymore. They are driven by the thought of ‘divide & rule’. They like divide one person from another on the basis of their – sub-caste, caste, creed, religion, complexion, the college they studied in, their hometowns, the languages they speak, etc etc. the list is never ending and highly competitive. Once the division is done, they put you in a sect based on the category you fit, and then the leaders of that sect are chosen. For example if its a religious followers category : based on who you follow(blindly & unconditionally) you are put in a common psyhological group, now out of this the most popular, well marketed by parents & family religious follower is chosen as the leader, who then has the authority to make claims about the religion, the people and most shockingly YOU. And while this happens You have no clue about it.
      This ways there are many categories in which the society around you or your family is divided into, such as :
      – children who drink alcohol
      – children or individuals who did love marriages
      – individuals who earn well
      – women who wear bold clothes (like really) ps note bold clothes mean : knee length skirts and sleevless stuff :/
      – women who work
      Blah blah blah.
      We are a part of a society today that uses the god gifted intellect to judge,criticise, discourage and disorient people and their lives. ultimately rooting FEAR of acceptnce 
      & Approval. and whenever this fear takes over we see people ruining they lives to please others.
      We need to know this mindset is killing humanity and I dont know why we (indians) are not able to be free from these type casts. 
      Try not judging people on what god they follow and what they eat, you may be surprised with the beauty of human connection you may discover!
      My only request to kids and adults reading this is, STOP encouraging this small thinking, stop being judgemental, to take the first step to break these chains we have grown around us and that is possible with education about where the @£$% the world is going these days and exposure – get such people around you to travel, meet new people and learn new things, and respect every individuals choices.
      This mutual respect will help us all coexist and grow or else we wont we be humans no more!
      and you wont have to ask your self are we humans or are we…..@£$%&! cause you will know  the answer.