Typical Indian turn offs

I spent all afternoon to figure how to phrase the title of this post correctly!(without offending many)
 this is the best I could reach! But fact is a fact, the urban Indian population is now growing at speed of light with access to the new food menus, gadgets, places, clothing, life styles and much more.
Hence obviously this should make us all more aware and more metro, but there are some hard to give up traits we have inherited generation after generation and no matter where we reach we would still have them. and these are what make us appear less exposed, aware and less educated!

Why why why?? I don’t know but here are some common turn offs that are appalling and we must discourage:

  • Talking loudly in public places : Ok so this really puts me off  badly. Indians take pride in talking loudly in public places, sometimes it looks like an innocent act only to become the center of attraction or seek everybody’s attention. be it, restaurants, flights, trains, airports, work places or elite public occasions. and I see people not objecting to it no matter how much it bothers  them. may be its time we politely let our colleagues, fellow travelers or diners know that we are not ok with it
  • Not Been there, not done that yet saying: Everyone here has an opinion on everything. whether they have experience of it or not; yet they have expert reviews, opinions, advices to give you. Of course all of this becomes valid information if they have real experiences to validate these comments but mostly they don’t yet their comments have the power to declare end results of any situations you may put forth.
  • The predictors: Some people take immense pride to be able to foresee future and predict the future of people, actors, neighbor’s, their kids, share market movie successes and eventually the future of you & me. if their accuracy was so good, why don’t they predict some shit for themselves! People have to stop making statement on anything & everything. 
  • Over judgmental/critical : I think we are the most critical & judgmental race, we have not opinions but judgments’ on everything. We judge people on every aspect of their personality even though we may not have them ourselves. Yet they trip on being able to rip apart anyone’s effort, project or creation. Mostly is done under the blanket of humor. when there is a new comer in Hollywood I haven’t seen posts ripping that actor apart, showcasing how he may fail or suck at his job. But when there is a new comer in Bollywood every Indian becomes larger than a regular film critic and rips apart that actor, verbally, on the social media and wherever possible. Ok fine I understand you can be skeptical but if you cant do that persons job better than him, there is absolutely no way you should be ridiculing him/her.  We should discourage this, or else it is not the right message we are sending to the world or the next generation.
  • The sleaze balls : if you are out of India and you see or come across a man eve teasing or making sleazy remarks at a woman 9/10 chances are he is an Indian. We as Indian men & women have encouraged these kinda sleaze balls. we breed them, and later when things go out of hand in our so called educated society we protest! Coommmee oooonnnn!!! Don’t you think all you men reading this should give a shut up call the next time you see a random man do this shit to anybody!
  • Macho man aka the MCP:  sadly, yes this is what 80% of Indian men and women think. If the man is an MCP he is macho, if he controls and commands women – he is macho. Now women also think that, its a shame!! This is such a shitty image to portray to the world out there.
  • Everything is the Government’s fault: I understand the government creates the procedures & mechanisms for the nation to function properly, but there is a critical role the public plays in it. if the last 10 years have been crappy, have you ever reflected upon “the brain drain” we have faced, The “why should I get my hands dirty” attitude, the lets “mind our own business & why care for another” behavior, which is the biggest reason for lack of social reforms. The rapists were not executed immediately we were angry, but how many of you were angry on the million cars & bikes passing by the dead soul lying on the road, there the public like you & me are at fault. Stop the blame game! if you are blaming you are guilty conscious. its your country you call the shots. so get out of the cocoon, speak up and call the shots! And charity begins from home!

After reading this take a moment and think of the kind of image we are creating for the next generation of India and the current people of the world. No matter hominy IT parks we have and how much employment we may create; The real change will come when we change our thinking and the thinking of all the people close to us – our families, our friends, our colleagues. Treat this as your social contribution to the growing India.

      It’s all our fault she died!

      Yes, it is.
      I slept watching the news last nite & prayed for her speedy recovery, I could imagine a day soon when she would have walked out of that hospital all healthy & fine and got into the game herself to Fu*# those basta#@s! But I failed somewhere because she just died. I never wanted to wake up to this news but as I did I realized that its actually in the end our fault.
      All of us who are Indians living in this country are at fault.
      Our mistake is that we have conveyed a message of cowardice to such men that they can get away with anything they do to harm a woman.
      Its our mistake that we tolerated each time we, our sisters, mothers, friends were eve teased, touched/felt in a crowd or made cheap comments at.
      Its our fault every time we saw somebody protecting women of such a thing, we turned & said “chhod na apne ko kya karna hai??” and got away from getting involved in that fight or argument!
      Its our fault we haven’t taught our women to slap, kick or abuse back when anyone encroaches their safety zone.
      Its our fault that we have raised our women to always be scared of the society and be at mercy of men to protect them or provide for them.
      Its our fault that we haven’t had enough arrangement to make our women strong enough to retaliate.
      Its our fault that if someone even attempts to do so we tag them as feminist or too bold or other stupid words.
      Let alone rape the culture of this country should be such that men tremble with fear before even eve teasing a woman.
      If those 6 men were beaten the first time they ever eve teased a woman, they wouldn’t have had the gut to even think of a rape. But each time they must have been ignored for their misbehavior their belief on their own disgusting intentions/actions got stronger.
      I am not saying that women need to start hunting for men on the streets post 10 pm & castrating them,but what I want to emphasize on is that we must encourage self defense for women. There are laws where in we are allowed to take extreme actions to protect our selves.
      Not just the laws but all of us need to set an example next time an incident like that happens around us as men or women!
      Slap that jerk, give him a mouthful and drag him to the cops and do this often until it all stops! if every woman starts doing this, these jobless bas@#$%s will learn their lesson well!
      Don’t gift her flowers next time, gift her a damn pepper spray for that will be of greater use if she lives in India than the flowers!
      Teach your sons, brothers and friends to RESPECT women.
      Its time we realize that we make the society what it is, with our attitude, beliefs and actions.
      If you think this does not concern you today, some day it will, and then it may be too late.
      Act now, all of us need to get a power dose of guts to stop whats going wrong starting now!!