The credit that is due, something you know in your heart, loud & clear. Yet you wait for that perfect day or moment to tell them that they did you good or perhaps even avoid doing it ever!
Telling some one what they did was great or complimenting them on a great job is nothing but a form of practicing gratitude. In the older times it was a part of good manners as well.
Insecurity cripples us at many levels. When we go ahead & give people credit for something they did great, or compliment them in any way, we step away from an insecure mindset.Yet, It’s a process which makes us vulnerable, may be that is why we avoid it so much!
Giving credit is nothing but telling someone that their act of helping you, guiding you, teaching you or supporting you was acknowledged. It is a simple form of gratitude. I am not talking about only family & friends but also people who you went to school/college with or worked with, who may have been in your life for a brief period but added value to it. Someone you have’nt seen for years but did you some good.
I often see now, when we lose someone, we all have so many nice things to say about people once they are gone, we leave no stone unturned to share their greatness on social media, but all of this unravels only once they are gone!
Why cant we do this before someone goes??? When they are alive??? Why cant we tell those stories now??
What are we scared of? Why Do we feel they don’t deserve it today??
I was once stuck in this rut, but I soon realized karma comes a full circle, the more I will avoid standing up & applauding someone who deserves it the more is going to come back to me. No one will stand & applaud for me either.
I broke that chain, I made myself vulnerable & starting telling all those people who needed to hear it from me. Not everyone took it the way I expected but that did not matter, I knew I had started doing something good for my mental well being. And I continue to do so, it makes things easier for me, it makes all the positive vibes rush in to my life. Gratitude has that power!
Gratitude makes us feel better, the more you practice this the more you will receive.
Here are 4 more reasons why you should take out time & thank some people you need to:
- Gratitude improves psychological health : Gratitude reduces a multitude of toxic emotions, ranging from envy and resentment to frustration and regret. Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., a leading gratitude researcher, has conducted multiple studies on the link between gratitude and well-being. His research confirms that gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression.
- Gratitude enhances empathy and reduces aggression : Grateful people are more likely to behave in a pro-social manner, even when others behave less kind, according to a 2012 study by the University of Kentucky. Study participants who ranked higher on gratitude scales were less likely to retaliate against others, even when given negative feedback. They experienced more sensitivity and empathy toward other people and a decreased desire to seek revenge. Empathy leads to mutual respect, which improves the quality of you interpersonal relationships.
- Grateful people sleep better : When you practice this gesture of gratitude towards another person your mind resonates those vibrations, and surprisingly when you recall those grateful sentiments before bed you end up sleeping better and longer.
- Gratitude improves self-esteem : A 2014 study published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology found that gratitude increased athlete’s self-esteem, which is an essential component to optimal performance. Other studies have shown that gratitude reduces social comparisons. Rather than becoming resentful toward people who have more money or better jobs – which is a major factor in reduced self-esteem- grateful people are able to appreciate other people’s accomplishments.
I hope this helps you realize that life & karma both are so forgiving, they can offer us double of what we can offer them.
Stay happy stay blessed!