Typical Indian turn offs

I spent all afternoon to figure how to phrase the title of this post correctly!(without offending many)
 this is the best I could reach! But fact is a fact, the urban Indian population is now growing at speed of light with access to the new food menus, gadgets, places, clothing, life styles and much more.
Hence obviously this should make us all more aware and more metro, but there are some hard to give up traits we have inherited generation after generation and no matter where we reach we would still have them. and these are what make us appear less exposed, aware and less educated!

Why why why?? I don’t know but here are some common turn offs that are appalling and we must discourage:

  • Talking loudly in public places : Ok so this really puts me off  badly. Indians take pride in talking loudly in public places, sometimes it looks like an innocent act only to become the center of attraction or seek everybody’s attention. be it, restaurants, flights, trains, airports, work places or elite public occasions. and I see people not objecting to it no matter how much it bothers  them. may be its time we politely let our colleagues, fellow travelers or diners know that we are not ok with it
  • Not Been there, not done that yet saying: Everyone here has an opinion on everything. whether they have experience of it or not; yet they have expert reviews, opinions, advices to give you. Of course all of this becomes valid information if they have real experiences to validate these comments but mostly they don’t yet their comments have the power to declare end results of any situations you may put forth.
  • The predictors: Some people take immense pride to be able to foresee future and predict the future of people, actors, neighbor’s, their kids, share market movie successes and eventually the future of you & me. if their accuracy was so good, why don’t they predict some shit for themselves! People have to stop making statement on anything & everything. 
  • Over judgmental/critical : I think we are the most critical & judgmental race, we have not opinions but judgments’ on everything. We judge people on every aspect of their personality even though we may not have them ourselves. Yet they trip on being able to rip apart anyone’s effort, project or creation. Mostly is done under the blanket of humor. when there is a new comer in Hollywood I haven’t seen posts ripping that actor apart, showcasing how he may fail or suck at his job. But when there is a new comer in Bollywood every Indian becomes larger than a regular film critic and rips apart that actor, verbally, on the social media and wherever possible. Ok fine I understand you can be skeptical but if you cant do that persons job better than him, there is absolutely no way you should be ridiculing him/her.  We should discourage this, or else it is not the right message we are sending to the world or the next generation.
  • The sleaze balls : if you are out of India and you see or come across a man eve teasing or making sleazy remarks at a woman 9/10 chances are he is an Indian. We as Indian men & women have encouraged these kinda sleaze balls. we breed them, and later when things go out of hand in our so called educated society we protest! Coommmee oooonnnn!!! Don’t you think all you men reading this should give a shut up call the next time you see a random man do this shit to anybody!
  • Macho man aka the MCP:  sadly, yes this is what 80% of Indian men and women think. If the man is an MCP he is macho, if he controls and commands women – he is macho. Now women also think that, its a shame!! This is such a shitty image to portray to the world out there.
  • Everything is the Government’s fault: I understand the government creates the procedures & mechanisms for the nation to function properly, but there is a critical role the public plays in it. if the last 10 years have been crappy, have you ever reflected upon “the brain drain” we have faced, The “why should I get my hands dirty” attitude, the lets “mind our own business & why care for another” behavior, which is the biggest reason for lack of social reforms. The rapists were not executed immediately we were angry, but how many of you were angry on the million cars & bikes passing by the dead soul lying on the road, there the public like you & me are at fault. Stop the blame game! if you are blaming you are guilty conscious. its your country you call the shots. so get out of the cocoon, speak up and call the shots! And charity begins from home!

After reading this take a moment and think of the kind of image we are creating for the next generation of India and the current people of the world. No matter hominy IT parks we have and how much employment we may create; The real change will come when we change our thinking and the thinking of all the people close to us – our families, our friends, our colleagues. Treat this as your social contribution to the growing India.

      Pune’s Famous Road (non)sense!

      The most common phrase I hear about Pune from its travelers or residents for a long time is “lovely city but bad traffic sense”.
      What exactly happens on Pune roads that gets us such a bad name??
      Well, I have been here for more than a decade and have lived in many other cities in the country (thanks to being a fauji kid), so yes I have obviously seen what the traffic is like in other cities too. But there is this peculiar attitude you see only in Pune, on the roads, which is so unlike its climate or people!!
      Some instances I have observed & may be if you have lived here, you can relate with it too 🙂

      • Everyone seems to be a part of secret formula one race, which allows them to do what it takes to reach their destination 1st.
      • Even if you can see there is going to be a jam, from somewhere a bikewala will come & block the road for the big trailer/bus to pass, hence leading to a bigger jam
      • Trying to take a U turn anywhere, anytime is a crime.
      • There is no such rule of overtaking only from the right!
      • You shall get dirts despite all your efforts to drive safe, basically with no fault of yours.
      • Most of the people are professionally trained to give dirts & drive at the same time.
      • All Pedestrians seem to have an invisible brake to your vehicle, which they shall use to cross the road when you are coming at a decent speed, by showing you “THE HAND”
      • There is always this wanna be boy speeding through the most crowded streets to impress all the women in one go!
      • We do not have/use zebra crossings!! oh wait, what are those for??
      • Bus, rickshaw and cab drivers are the official owners of all the roads, so do NOT mess with them!!

       What bothers me most is, this city is known as the oxford of the east, with a large number of schools, colleges & professional institutes. Not just this, with the high rise of the IT/ITES industry there is huge influx of well educated professionals from all areas.
      Yet, we don’t see that education on the roads??
      Firstly is anybody even educating them about how to drive/ride?? Keeping aside the humor the roads are getting worse by the day, getting more and more unsafe for everyone traveling on them.

      Pune is the epicenter of fatal road accidents in the country. The accidental death rate for Pune is 89.4%, the highest in the country. The rising number of fatalities needs immediate attention from the policy makers to the commuters. A study carried out by the –revealed that Nearly 3 people die in road accidents in Pune every day.
      Can you imagine the number of lives that could be saved with a change in the road culture of this city??!!
       Its very shocking and disappointing that RTO, educational & professional institutions are not taking the initiative to begin the culture of safe driving in the city!
      Here are somethings everyone could do & support:

      • RTO should have a driving test + IQ test every 3/5 years
      • Educational institutes & professional organizations should have special workshops & trainings on safe driving cultures, starting from their own students, staff & cab drivers
      • Corporates should team up with social groups of the city as a part of their corporate social responsibility and conduct special trainings/activities for the public transport drivers.

      May be, these small steps could bring about a huge change & help Pune roads to get safer!