Why you must give credit to people?

Most of us suffer have a fear of giving people credit for what its worth!
The credit that is due, something you know in your heart, loud & clear. Yet you wait for that perfect day or moment to tell them that they did you good or perhaps even avoid doing it ever!
Telling some one what they did was great or complimenting them on a great job is nothing but a form of practicing gratitude. In the older times it was a part of good  manners as well.
Insecurity cripples us at many levels. When we go ahead & give people credit for something they did great, or compliment them in any way, we step away from an insecure mindset.Yet, It’s a process which makes us vulnerable, may be that is why we avoid it so much!

Giving credit is nothing but telling someone that their act of helping you, guiding you, teaching you or supporting you was acknowledged. It is a simple form of gratitude. I am not talking about only family & friends but also people who you went to school/college with or worked with, who may have been in your life for a brief period but added value to it. Someone you have’nt seen for years but did you some good.

I often see now, when we lose someone, we all have so many nice things to say about people once they are gone, we leave no stone unturned to share their greatness on social media, but all of this unravels only once they are gone!
Why cant we do this before someone goes??? When they are alive??? Why cant we tell those stories now??
What are we scared of? Why Do we feel they don’t deserve it today?? 

I was once stuck in this rut, but I soon realized karma comes a full circle, the more I will avoid standing up & applauding someone who deserves it the more is going to come back to me. No one will stand & applaud for me either.
I broke that chain, I made myself vulnerable & starting telling all those people who needed to hear it from me. Not everyone took it the way I expected but that did not matter, I knew I had started doing something good for my mental well being. And I continue to do so, it makes things easier for me, it makes all the positive vibes rush in to my life. Gratitude has that power!


Gratitude makes us feel better, the more you practice this the more you will receive.

Here are 4 more reasons why you should take out time & thank some people you need to:

  • Gratitude improves psychological health : Gratitude reduces a multitude of toxic emotions, ranging from envy and resentment to frustration and regret. Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., a leading gratitude researcher, has conducted multiple studies on the link between gratitude and well-being. His research confirms that gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression. 
  • Gratitude enhances empathy and reduces aggression : Grateful people are more likely to behave in a pro-social manner, even when others behave less kind, according to a 2012 study by the University of Kentucky. Study participants who ranked higher on gratitude scales were less likely to retaliate against others, even when given negative feedback. They experienced more sensitivity and empathy toward other people and a decreased desire to seek revenge.  Empathy leads to mutual respect, which improves the quality of you interpersonal relationships.
  • Grateful people sleep better : When you practice this gesture of gratitude towards another person your mind resonates those vibrations, and surprisingly when you recall those grateful sentiments before bed you end up sleeping better and longer. 
  • Gratitude improves self-esteem : A 2014 study published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology found that gratitude increased athlete’s self-esteem, which is an essential component to optimal performance. Other studies have shown that gratitude reduces social comparisons. Rather than becoming resentful toward people who have more money or better jobs – which is a major factor in reduced self-esteem- grateful people are able to appreciate other people’s accomplishments.
So go ahead, open that old photo album, rekindle some old forgotten relationships, call that old boss or classmate of yours, thank them for watching out for you or just letting you be.
I hope this helps you realize that life & karma both are so forgiving, they can offer us double of what we can offer them.

Stay happy stay blessed!
💗💟🙏

7 precious lessons from Chanakya

Chanakya has fascinated me for years now. Thanks to my father who bought me my first book on Chankaya neeti, I was just 13 then, but somehow that small book with just ten of his lessons left a huge impact on me. It was more like an introduction to leadership & management at an intellectual yet accessible level. For people to become great managers or leaders or just plain and simple successes in their respective fields,  we need to embed the right seeds in their minds at the right time, the seeds of management wisdom, of people management and self management.

Seeing the youth of our country I feel the need to share those precious lessons.

lessons from Chanakya

So who is Chanakya??  Back in 4th century BC, a philosopher-statesman Chanakya a.k.a. Kautilya wrote the first few principles of administrative management.  He is known as India’s first economist/ management guru, his management theories were not just apt but thorough as well, and full of all of the vedic wisdom, which is why they guided royalty & leaders from times immemorial.
Chanakya documented his life’s labor in the Arthashastra, a list of principles that would ensure sound governance. I feel some of his wisdom can help us all pave great paths for ourselves in our career growth. Here, I share 7 of my favorite lessons from him that I found in different books I read, the practice of which can help you catapult your business/self management acumen to whole new level:

1. “Honesty isn’t the best policy always: A person should not be too honest, straight trees are cut first and honest people are screwed first.” My interpretation is that one should define the boundaries of their honesty or rigidity. Your honesty at your workplace regarding your work may be alright but sharing too much about your personal life or honest opinions may cause a hindrance as you may come across as opinionated or rigid in your beliefs. Put a limit & boundary on what you wish to be honest about and where.

2. “As soon as the fear approaches near, attack & destroy it” He is implying that one must face the fears we have dwelling in our minds. Once we identify a fear and decide to tackle it or overcome it, it is destroyed for ever. hence making that emotional space clear for something positive to grow.

3. “Even if a snake is not poisonous it should pretend to be venomous” Even if a snake is not poisonous it should not stop hissing under any circumstances, He will only have its hiss to ward off attackers & protect it self. Without this protective pretense, even a child could stone it to death. A little ostentation is necessary in this world. Without the minimum ostentation, a man’s real worth remains unrecognized.
This is a key point, if understood incorrectly it can throw you off the hook. Chanakya is implying you to behave what you are worthy of, not too much not too less, but just what is rightly needed for you.

4. “Learn from others mistakes, you will not live long enough to make them all yourself.” This is so apt for all of us who want to achieve great things in life, learn from what you see around you, dont jump in and make the same mistakes hoping for another result. It better to save your time & efforts.

5. “Good behavior wins over an enemy too”
Wisely put, a person with good behavior can overcome even your enemies or people who despise you. Following the rest of points can get you somewhere but good behavior will get you to success even more easily. Don’t become snooty, arrogant or unapologetic. Your behavior can take you a long way!

6.”Once you start working on something, don’t be afraid of failure and don’t abandon it. people who work sincerely are the happiest.” My interpretation is simple, its all about dedication, it is meant to bring you joy. For I have observed, people who change too many jobs too often, in the hunger to grow faster than everyone are the ones mostly unhappy. So its ok if to do that one thing but do it the best, dont leave it half way beause someone got something better. Being dedicated will teach you far more about your own self.

7. “Man who desires flowers, does not water a dead tree” Implying if you want results, you must not waste your time and efforts on unproductive things or people. Value your time and use your knowledge to do the right things for the results you wanted in the first place. Wanting to be Steve jobs but getting wasted with friends every night, is not going to make you Steve!!

Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions – Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead.
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Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions – Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/c/chanakya201072.html
Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions – Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/c/chanakya201072.html
Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions – Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/c/chanakya201072.htm

I wish these help you to walk & lead the right way.

Stay tuned for more!