Why you must give credit to people?

Most of us suffer have a fear of giving people credit for what its worth!
The credit that is due, something you know in your heart, loud & clear. Yet you wait for that perfect day or moment to tell them that they did you good or perhaps even avoid doing it ever!
Telling some one what they did was great or complimenting them on a great job is nothing but a form of practicing gratitude. In the older times it was a part of good  manners as well.
Insecurity cripples us at many levels. When we go ahead & give people credit for something they did great, or compliment them in any way, we step away from an insecure mindset.Yet, It’s a process which makes us vulnerable, may be that is why we avoid it so much!

Giving credit is nothing but telling someone that their act of helping you, guiding you, teaching you or supporting you was acknowledged. It is a simple form of gratitude. I am not talking about only family & friends but also people who you went to school/college with or worked with, who may have been in your life for a brief period but added value to it. Someone you have’nt seen for years but did you some good.

I often see now, when we lose someone, we all have so many nice things to say about people once they are gone, we leave no stone unturned to share their greatness on social media, but all of this unravels only once they are gone!
Why cant we do this before someone goes??? When they are alive??? Why cant we tell those stories now??
What are we scared of? Why Do we feel they don’t deserve it today?? 

I was once stuck in this rut, but I soon realized karma comes a full circle, the more I will avoid standing up & applauding someone who deserves it the more is going to come back to me. No one will stand & applaud for me either.
I broke that chain, I made myself vulnerable & starting telling all those people who needed to hear it from me. Not everyone took it the way I expected but that did not matter, I knew I had started doing something good for my mental well being. And I continue to do so, it makes things easier for me, it makes all the positive vibes rush in to my life. Gratitude has that power!

Gratitude makes us feel better, the more you practice this the more you will receive.

Here are 4 more reasons why you should take out time & thank some people you need to:

  • Gratitude improves psychological health : Gratitude reduces a multitude of toxic emotions, ranging from envy and resentment to frustration and regret. Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., a leading gratitude researcher, has conducted multiple studies on the link between gratitude and well-being. His research confirms that gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression. 
  • Gratitude enhances empathy and reduces aggression : Grateful people are more likely to behave in a pro-social manner, even when others behave less kind, according to a 2012 study by the University of Kentucky. Study participants who ranked higher on gratitude scales were less likely to retaliate against others, even when given negative feedback. They experienced more sensitivity and empathy toward other people and a decreased desire to seek revenge.  Empathy leads to mutual respect, which improves the quality of you interpersonal relationships.
  • Grateful people sleep better : When you practice this gesture of gratitude towards another person your mind resonates those vibrations, and surprisingly when you recall those grateful sentiments before bed you end up sleeping better and longer. 
  • Gratitude improves self-esteem : A 2014 study published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology found that gratitude increased athlete’s self-esteem, which is an essential component to optimal performance. Other studies have shown that gratitude reduces social comparisons. Rather than becoming resentful toward people who have more money or better jobs – which is a major factor in reduced self-esteem- grateful people are able to appreciate other people’s accomplishments.
So go ahead, open that old photo album, rekindle some old forgotten relationships, call that old boss or classmate of yours, thank them for watching out for you or just letting you be.
I hope this helps you realize that life & karma both are so forgiving, they can offer us double of what we can offer them.

Stay happy stay blessed!

Hey you mortal (poem)

Hey you mortal!
How foolish are you to pretend that you will last forever,
how foolish are you to believe that all you accumulate in this material world defines you?
You think it will stay with you forever?
In this time & age you are being sucked into a belief,
that all the material achievements & possessions is our real earnings.
There is a reason behind us feeling this way.
We are escaping the feeling world.
Why? Because it’s more work.
It’s more effort & less pretence.
It’s more from the inside & less from the outside.

Hey you mortal!
Who we are as a person defines us nothing more nothing less.
You have heard this before,right? Yet find it difficult to believe.
Our ability to be compassionate, to love, to be kind, to help each other is what we will be remembered for.

Hey you mortal!
Once you leave this earth you will only need a white cloth to wrap your soulless body in.
Some will cry, some will weep.
Some will for grieve for a few days and some will just wipe you out of their memory in a jiffy.
All these social media friends & fans, these colleagues, and even family, will sooner or later forget you.
Sad but true.
At last, The only thing that will force people to think of you or remember you, is a memory of how you behaved with them, how you made them feel. Your love, compassion, care and regard will stay.
That loving hug, a helpful gesture, even that excited goodbye wave.

Hey you mortal!
Your soul craves for something more meaningful, yet you stuff it with surface gold & glitter.
Can you provide your soul with the right fodder?
Something satisfying, peaceful, that makes your heart grow fonder.
Your habits, your things & your temporary flings,
Don’t have that power.
What has the real power is What you can do for others, your actions, your karma and your kind feelings.

Hey you mortal!
Try it, it’s not so difficult.
Step aside from this chaos, and focus on the little things you can do for people.
Spend some time doing good for others, and be more humble.
May be it will come back or may be it won’t.
But the fruit this bears will be the sweetest ever.
Go nurture your inner being,
become kinder, Go less on criticism & complaining.
Give that credit, clear your karmic dues,
This for sure will make you feel higher.
Make an effort to make someone’s day brighter.

Hey you mortal,
there is so much you can do!
Go nurture your soul.