Why hiring a Mother is a good idea?

Having a baby still remains one of the most unexplainable joys of human life! We are in 2019 and we are full of so much information, apps, facilities and things that make our life easier as mothers yet there is still one matter that subconsciously bothers almost every mother – “the stigma of going back to work after a baby”. There is a slight sense of incompetence that creeps in when a mother starts to think of her career.

Women comprise of almost 48% of the workforce in India. Yet only 27% of new mothers come back to work after a baby. Sad but true, it’s not only the society, the social pressure, the guilt, the lack ok help and the work life balance that makes it difficult.

Organizations tend to form an opinion far sooner than expected, once they hear of a baby. When it comes to going back to the corporate world, some eyebrows are still raised about how productive will this woman be after being a mother. Now that my daughter is 1 year old and I sat down to introspect what have I learnt in this one year as “me”, I was amazed. The speed, the clarity, the management, and the constant fight with exhaustion I was winning, I was acing it!!!!

I have no help, like no family or maids to care for my child. Initially it was by choice as I wanted to raise her my way. It was just me & my husband, and this is probably the reason why I realised how this has made me more organized, systematic and passionate about what I want to do with my time!

Apart from this, mothers haven’t heard a good word about themselves in a while. So I thought of breaking the ice and sharing 5 reasons why a new or old mother is a great hire for your team and how her motherhood has improved her productivity manifolds,

  1. Multi tasking – don’t even get me started on this one!!! I used to call myself a MultiTasker earlier but I really didn’t understand the real meaning of these words until I became a mother this becomes your first and most dependable life skill. while multitasking you should be able to do two things at the same time but prioritize in your head which is more important and to which you need to give your more attention. if it’s a mundane task, you practice well just so your multitasking doesn’t cause any hazardous damages!! Like typing while feeding or while changing the diaper making that customer service call and the list goes on. Multitasking isn’t just about doing two things at the same time it’s about prioritising which two things can you do together and which cannot come into this list at all.
  2. Planning – being a mum with no help around, except your spouse and your baby is an easy task only if you are able to plan things well! thankfully that was always a trait I had but I took it to the next level by literally planning whatever was within my control, days, hours or minutes in advance to the real action because planning saves lot of your time and your able to save time, money & energy.
  3. Crisis management – that’s the second name of motherhood because you have a crisis going on every hour! of course the scale is different but it’s also becomes a part of your brain to process faster when there is a situation and also helps you pre-empt any forthcoming situations that can be within your attentive radius.
  4. Creativity – after all a mother has only two hands and two legs but since there is so much to manage, you tend to become creative and find new ways the working things out to save a time and most importantly to save energy this skill comes in super handy at workplaces and you already know that.
  5. Compassion – I don’t think we mothers don’t give ourselves enough credit for what we go through during pregnancy and the effort it takes to push a human out alive out of our body and then raise him/her. This journey makes us understand value of life in general, loving a child makes us warm and compassionate. It makes us better at people management. Of course there are exceptions but I’d want to leave it at hormonal crisis or something. But I feel in today’s world you need skilled people along with compassion and respect for each other in general.

I’ve seen leadership sending their employees on multiple courses and workshops to learn the above mentioned skills and abilities, Which makes them better professionals and even better leaders. But nothing works like real life experience and training.

However, being a mother you get to learn this stuff hands on!! It can be hard but it’s about steering these learning into whatever you do as a professional.
A note –

For mothers- Get up, dust the damn formula off your butt and get going, you are now only a better version of yourself. Don’t waste your time analysing if you will fit in because you don’t have to. Whatever time you have taken a break for make sure you are able to apply those learnings into your working life. If you are passionate about what you do, motherhood will only make you better at it. Fight the stigma, fight the guilt and remember your child does not need a perfect mother, he needs a happy mother!

For organisations- I see some amazing recruitment campaigns encouraging women to get back to work after their journey as a mothers. It’s a great move but we also need to bring about a shift in the mindset within the organisation which includes leaders, your peers and managers who do not look at mothers being a liability. Don’t let “having a baby” become a deciding factor.

For everyone else – Be supportive to woman who wants to work after a baby, boost their confidence, give ideas, create opportunities, and provide solutions.

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How can we connect with the millennials?

Yes, we all have much to say about the millennial kids. But when we come to think of it, it is actually not their fault alone.
Those who were born in the 80s will agree with me that we had limited entertainment channels and a very focused / straight education system, yet we all lost the path sometimes but could get back on track faster because the socioeconomic growth around us wasn’t going crazy!!

But today there are 4 major problems the youngsters are facing –

1. Everything around them is changing: be it technology, things, trends, all of it. before they can get the hang of one game another is launched, to keep up with this pace they begin altering their behaviors for example not being too sure of one thing alone, getting bored too soon, etc.

2. Education is not growing at par with the technology: The education systems in India still have the same model of assessment and curriculum with minor introductions of technology here & there. In fact the 11th/12th std or MBA students are not even aware of many career trends today, so how do we expect them to be focused & dedicated. Did you have the subject back in school called “Moral science”. Do you remember anything about it?? Well I do, because it left a great positive impact on my mind, it made a huge difference in the way I treat humans, animals & plants. This is what our new age kids need.They need emotional education. They need to learn compassion, love, respect, how else will they grow up to be positive on any platform?

3. Money has changed the game: We only see spenders around us, Some spend on food, some on clothes, some on holidays & cars, and some on all. And how do we know that – Instagram/Facebook/twitter. Enticing, Inviting pictures everywhere, compelling you to spend!! to be there!! Maybe, parents are at fault somewhere but don’t you think we all as a society have a role to play here too?

4.Too much information: Yes with technology we have information on our fingertips but with that comes the risk of exposure to a lot of the bogus, distracting, demotivating information as well. And may be we haven’t prepared our kids/youngsters to handle that well, may be we have not invested enough time & efforts in establishing a strong belief system. A robust belief system that helps them differentiate right from wrong, or easy from worthy, or addictive from nourishing. May be as parents/elders/uncles/aunts we have not prepared them to handle this environment we have today. This is the reason why the cases of bullying and suicides are only going up.

 Well, as a professional and a human with 32 years of experience in life, Facing the good, bad & the ugly; I feel the need to interact, empower & enlighten the students of today. They need this. We cant stand on the sidewalk and watch the fun.
This will be my way of contributing to the society in a minuscule way.
I am daily looking for opportunities to work with students.
I have begun my journey on the subject of emotional education. 
With My book #UmeniTherapy I am reaching out to young teens & adults encouraging them to use art as a strong form of de-stressing, mindfulness and creative thinking. I feel as parents or elders we need to encourage people to experience & explore the joy of simple things.
Inspired by the book, I conduct art workshops with teens & adults, just like an additional fun activity, we all get together at a suitable venue and help each other to unleash our creativity on the canvas.

Apart from this guest lectures in Colleges and schools are on my list of things I am already doing. I speak on generic motivational topics to specific to my industry as well. If you are associated to any such educational institute, wherein I could step in as guest speaker, feel free to contact me.The link to one of my talks is here.

This is my way of getting out of the complaining zone of “what is happening to the world?” to “Let’s do something to make the world a better place!” Because Each time I interact with students, I come home learning a thing or two about my own self as well.

My suggestion to you is come participate with me, Join in or do your own bit to help our country’s young students, to find a path. You can help by sharing your work expertise online or offline, talk to the kids around you , Hire them as interns in your company or any other ways you can thing of. What ever it may be just try & work with them and start including them in your societies.